First ever blog posting!!

Wow.... my first ever blog. My first ever blog posting. OK, Yo peeps! No, too ethnic. Hmmmm, Howdy Y'all! Noooo, too southern. Hmmm, ok, ok, let's try this, How you doin'? Uh-oh, too cliche. All right, Hello everyone. I guess I can live with that.

Just to let everyone know, I do enjoy meeting new people and talking/chatting/emailing new people. So, please feel free to give me any comments you feel like posting.

Now I'm going to try to catch everyone up with my life. Specifically my love life. Or, more accurately, my lack-of-love life. I'll get a pic posted soon, but, until then, here is "me". I'm not the best looking guy on the planet. I don't have a really sexy body. I'm not rich. I'm not a man in uniform. I'm not a politician. I'm not a professional sports figure. I'm not a movie/TV star. I'm not a radio DJ. I'm not in any position of power. I'm not a real smooth talker. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm a pretty good guy. I treat women very good. I try hard to impress. I'm affectionate. I'm attentive. I'm faithful. I'm honest. I am a pretty good catch, all in all. However, it is finding a woman that actually thinks the same thing and is at least a little bit attractive to me. The good thing is, I'm not real picky when it comes to a women's looks.

As far as even meeting women goes... well, I don't have many friends and the ones I have are mostly married, have kids, or just recently got married and/or had a kid. So, I don't see them very often. Therefore, I don't get out as much as I used to. I hate going out alone. My friends also don't seem to have anyone to set me up with. I've asked and I've hinted, but, nothing. I'm not real good meeting people at work. For me, if things don't work out, I find it awkward to see that person on a regular basis. I go out on Fri & Sat nights almost every week. I also go out about every other Tuesday night. I go to karaoke with a friend on Tues nights. It's really tough to go out drinking and shut the place down on a week night however. But, I'm trying to expand my chances to meet people. I've done the online dating thing before and I actually do like it. I just hate spending the bucks and not getting anything to show for it. I even did the profile thing for e-harmony. I got to the end of it and I got a message "We are unable to match you with anyone", not "We don't currently have any matches for you". Basically, I don't fit into one of their neat little categories that they can match with other neat little categories of people. I'll admit, I was very disappointed. I had hoped they could do what I had been unable to do my entire adult life. So, in a nutshell, I just don't meet many people, especially females. I don't go out with my friends as often as I used to. I don't get set up by anyone. I don't meet anyone at work very often. I don't go to church (and I'm not going to start just to meet people). I'm not meeting anyone through online sites anymore. So, my chances are getting few and far between.

Now, here is an update of my recent dating horror's.

2001: I moved back to Texas in July. I didn't date anyone for the rest of the year because I had just gotten out of a relationship and I was too busy looking for a job, etc.

2002: I met a girl at work. We dated for about a month then she went back to her ex-boyfriend. Towards the end of the year, I met a girl through Match.com. We had 2 dates then she disappeared. She just stopped returning my phone calls and emails. After awhile, I got the message.

2003: I met another girl through Match. We dated for about a month and she went back to her ex-boyfriend.

2004: I met another girl through Match. We dated for about 3 or 4 months. Talked about moving in together. Took a vacation together. She called me a couple days after we got back and she said she didn't want to see me anymore. She didn't think we were right for each other. Later that year, I met a girl online through a free dating site. I know, big mistake. We dated for a couple weeks. Then she called me in the middle of the night asking if I could bring her to the bus station. She needed to go back "home" right away, her father was in the hospital. As we arrived at the bus station, she asked me what she should do if the money her mother wired to the bus station hadn't arrived. I know, SUCKER! Yep, I bought the bus ticket. I did get one email from her several weeks later. She wanted my home address so she could mail me the money. I gave her my work address and never heard or received anything from her. Later I met another girl through the same free site. She told me all about the guys she was meeting through the site just for sex. Of course, I wasn't included in anything physical with her. She did talk me into helping her move. Yep, SUCKER!! And she used me as a reference for a school loan. I didn't give her permission to use me that way. I still here from them occasionally regarding her unpaid loan.

2005: I met another girl through Match. We dated for a couple weeks then she decided that she wasn't ready to date anyone seriously. Then I met another girl through Match. We seemed to hit it off really well for the first couple months. There were some things that I didn't like (such as passing out several evenings, always having me stop on the way over and get her beer, having me stop to get her beer even after we had been out drinking, etc), but, I overlooked them and she always had excuses. Then one weekend when she stayed over at my place, the morning after she left, I found a bottle of rum (I had it since about 1998-ish when I took a Caribbean cruise, it was still unopened) empty hidden in my closet. She downed it while I was in the bathroom. I quickly realized she was an alcoholic. I confronted her with this and she denied it and said she still wanted to keep seeing me. However, she seemed more interested in going out with friends instead of me after that. We quickly faded away, but, not before she borrowed money from me. OK, here it comes... wait for it.... SUCKER!!!

2006: OK, I came into this year not looking to meet anyone. I've closed my Match account. Erased my account on the free site. I just cannot handle the lows that come with being dumped. Thinking I've found someone that I can actually be happy with, then having it all taken away from me. When I hit those lows, my mind starts telling me how I can avoid ever feeling like that again. But truthfully, I'm too much of a chicken to take that route. So, I'm done looking. I'm just going to have to find a way to live with being sad and lonely all the time.

Unfortunately, I did meet someone. I'll save that sob story for a later posting however.